OPEN LETTER TO MY FATHER:

To my father,

I can’t imagine how you feel sometimes. I am almost 18 years old, but at times it seems like I know more than you and I know that intimidates you because I don’t ask you questions about how the fridge works or which medicine cures which type of Cancer anymore but I never have to pretend I’m smarter than you because I know you will always be the smartest man I know.

I know I don’t make it easy for you to talk to me, my passive-aggressive behaviour comes from my mother and perhaps I can’t see eye to eye with you on certain things because you’re stuck in your ways and I, in mine. You taught me to question everything, including oneself at times. It is because of you that I have opinions, beliefs and perspective because you allowed me to defend them against the world and practice them as long as they did not harm anybody.

While I’m awakening from the ways the world has shown me, self involved in my own path, I know sometimes you wish I were little again and didn’t fight you when you tell me to eat rice or talk in Kannada, perhaps because we didn’t get to spend much time together when I was a little girl. As a woman, it almost seems impossible to tell me what to do because both you and mumma made sure I am a self-assured and independant women but when things get rough I’ll always need you by my side.

You were never the father to be involved in everything I did, you wouldn’t ask me each night whom I met or what I did although you did enforce your political and religious views on me, which I accepted because they were always argued with logic and reason, like most things you told me.

Everyone always told me I’m like you; I have your eyes, your wit( Although, I’m better), your resilience, your ability to look at the world in the kindest eyes each day and we are both reckless to the point of self-destruction. Even though you’ve done a lot of stupid mistakes, I’m proud to say you’re my dad even when you’re sometimes unreliable.

You have always been yourself regardless of what others have said, many have judged you but no one can say you don’t have a good heart. For me, I know you’ll do anything.

I always try to fight the fact that I don’t need you because I wanted to prove to myself that I was independent which is probably why I taught myself to do many things. I taught myself to ride the bicycle, I taught myself to work the fuse box and I taught myself to cook. We are closer than most people who live with their fathers are because we have an honest and an open relationship.

I know I give you a hard time. I never pick up your calls and I almost never tell you when I’m angry because like you, I’m naive about emotions and can never accept my vulnerabilities. It is from you that I picked up my ability to understand art in depth, you spoke about movies and books and took inspiration from them, something that I often do. You made sure I understand what true education is and always criticized me when I behaved in a frivolous way because I now understand life is more than clothes, makeup and drinking.

You treat everyone the same way, whether they are an auto-driver or a CEO and you never take yourself seriously. I remember, once you calling me from your hotel in Chandigarh to inform me about the minor earthquake that had occurred and while I was worried, you were laughing about how everything around you was falling apart or that time your factory in Baddi caught a fire and you just laughed at your ill-plight. I asked why you weren’t worked up and you simply said “How does that help in fixing the damage?” ( In Kannada, of course)

When I was in the 5th grade, in the midst of our regular banter, you said        “Everyone lives. Everyone gets a degree.  Everyone gets a job and Everyone reproduces but you got to do something more than that!” Perhaps, that struck a chord with me and ever since I’m on my hunt for that something more.

I know you try to be as nonchalant as possible when it comes to my academics because you think I have the ability to succeed with or without a strong academic background. You have never pressurized me but I remember your face when my 10th board results were out. You were sitting on the sofa, watching news while mumma and I were glued to the laptop, refreshing every minute but the minute the results were out and I was reading out my marks, you jumped out from the sofa and I remember your face that afternoon, even though you said your demeanor wouldn’t change if I scored a 50%, I remember your face that day and I always will.

I may be like you in many ways but I’m not you. I’m more than you and less than you.

I wanted to write this for a long time and this is not something I thought about today because it was father’s day, a day which you and I both agree is materialistic and frivolous but I can never tell you these things looking at you, it’s just how we are built. We write because we can’t express.

 

QUICK KOREAN SKINCARE ROUTINE

Hello, everyone. Hope you’re all doing well, I’m so sorry for being inactive and I was supposed to do a Korean Skincare haul but I already started using them, so I am going to talk you through my quick skin care routine using Korean  products.

My mother was in South Korea last month and she bought home a ton of products and I wanted to incorporate them in my skincare routine because Koreans are known for their skincare and beauty products and I wanted to experience it myself.

Before I started using these products, my skin was going through a hard time, I was breaking out a lot and I had a lot of marks, I could not control the breakout with my regular products and it was just getting worse day by day but it’s been more than a month now and my face is clearer than before and brighter.

So, I start off by using the Rice water bright cleansing form from the FACE SHOP, so most of the products are from Face Shop and after trying their products I’m in love with the brand, I completely switched my skincare routine, this is by the best face wash I have used, it’s a cleansing as well as brightning foaming cleanser, it has a creamy texture made of mild rice water and other natural ingredient. It cleans your face without drying it out and skin looks fresh . The cream formula lathers easily and is not harsh for sensitive skin, As for the Brightening factor you do see the difference in about a week if you use it with the cleansing water from the same range but don’t expect the difference to be dramatic . If your looking for a mild cleanser which does its job well this is the product to go for.

I finish it off with the Clean Face Mild Toner from the Face shop, I used to never bother with a toner but now I’m taking care of my skin better and I absolutely love this, it again feels very light on my skin like rest of their products and it works great if you have large pores, they tighten them and helps you prevent breakouts and helps firm your skin.

Once a week or more, I use the sheet masks, now these are amazing, I love sheet masks and my mother bought a ton of them so depending on your skin type and skin concerns you can pick your sheet masks, they instantly brighten my skin.

So, now about where to buy them, In India, you can get them online at http://www.nykaa.com/the-face-shop-brandstore?intcmp=brand_menu|new|the-face-shop

So this was about my quick skincare routine, let me know yours in the comments and your take on Korean Skincare.